When questioned the vast majority of brides (and some grooms!) will admit to feeling a little nervous about the morning of their wedding. It’s completely normal to worry about whether your hair dresser will arrive on time, whether you will be feeling weepy, and how you will manage to bring all of the many elements together on time. Well don’t stress! There is a way of being totally relaxed as the hours tick down to your marriage ceremony, and it’s surprisingly easy. You simply need to be organised and create a schedule to ensure that you arrive at the venue feeling excited, but also as relaxed as possible. Take a look below for my top stress-busting tip for the morning of your wedding…
Draw up a schedule…and stick to it!
Will you have your makeup done and then your hair, or the other way around? For our wedding I had my hair done first as I opted for a style that didn’t lie across my forehead too much. Once my hair was complete I padded back down the hall in my slippers to the bridal suite to apply my makeup. When that was done it was back to the salon to have my veil placed into my hair, before I returned to the bridal suite to get into my dress. All of that toing and froing took time, despite the fact that the salon was only a couple of doors away from the bridal suite. So remember that you need to include transport times within your schedule, even if the journey is a short one.
If you have booked the same artist to apply makeup to your bridesmaids, maid of honour, mother and other relatives, you need to make sure that you know how long each application will take. The same goes for hair styling. Makeup artists will apply the bride’s makeup last so that is still freshly applied when she walks down the aisle, and you don’t want a situation where the bride’s makeup is being rushed because makeup application on someone else ran over schedule. As a general rule you need to leave ninety minutes for bridal makeup application and ninety minutes for bridal hair styling. For your maid of honour, bridesmaids, mother and other female relatives you need to allow sixty minutes per person per task, unless their trials have taken considerably less time. Minimise stress in this situation by using a team of makeup artists and hair stylists.
It's also very important that you leave time to have something to eat! Make sure that you have plenty of breakfast to help your energy levels to stay elevated, and keep snacking until it's time to get into your dress. You may not feel like eating much, but please try to have something, and drinks water as well as champagne. A woozy head, rumbly tummy and hunger pains are not something you will want to contend with as you say your vows.
Choose a large bridal suite with lots of natural light
If your family is anything like my family, there will be lots of people coming in and out of the bridal suite on the morning of the wedding. Your maid of honour will probably be with you most of the time, your bridesmaids will be on hand to assist you, and various members of the bridal party will want to check on your progress from time to time. My own bridal suite had no less than fifteen people in it at one stage, so I was so glad that I’d chosen one of the largest rooms at our venue!
Natural light in the bridal suite should also be a concern so that your makeup artist and hair stylist have the best conditions in which to make you look beautiful! If you will be waking up in a hotel on the morning of your wedding then it’s best to ask the staff which room receives the best morning light. Book this room as your bridal suite. If you will be getting ready at home then you will already know which room will provide the best conditions. Oh, and having plenty of light will help your photographer to capture the most beautiful pre-ceremony shots.
Hang the dress, and don’t forget the veil
As well as having space for lots of people in your room you also need somewhere airy and roomy to hang your dress. Whatever you do, don’t leave your dress in its bag all morning! Take it out and let it hang to remove any small creases, and to allow the material to breath. This is especially important if you have a train, and don’t forget to do the same for your veil. The back of a chair or a door is the best place to hang a long veil, but remember to keep it well out of the way to avoid anyone brushing against it, and pop a clean white towel underneath to prevent dust transfer. No one should be allowed to touch the dress, veil or shoes without first washing and thoroughly drying their hands to avoid last minute stains.
Don’t forget the emergency kit!
No bride should be without her trusty emergency kit! If you have a wedding planner they will bring their own, but double check that they have included the following…
- Facial wipes
- Tailor’s chalk (to cover any small stains)
- Pain killers
- Blister plasters
- Spare pair of stockings
- Small sewing kit (including safety pins)
- Flat shoes
- Wellies (in case of rain!)
- Cello tape
- Bottled water & hi energy snacks
Keep your attention on yourself, everyone else will be fine
The morning of your wedding is one of very few occasions when it’s ok to be totally self-centred! Concentrate on yourself and don’t worry too much about what everyone else is doing. Your maid of honour is a big girl and more than capable of getting herself ready as well as assisting you, and the same goes for your bridesmaids. If you have a young flower girl then you can feel safe in the knowledge that her parents will be doing everything they can be make sure their little girl looks perfect for the procession. This morning is all about you preparing physically and emotionally for the best day of your life, so don’t sweat the small stuff.
Also, don’t worry about whether your groom is getting ready or not. His mum and/or your mum and his best man will have all of that in order!